frankness/rudeness

I just don't get it ... why do people confuse frankness with rudeness? I mean, who said that every little thing that you think must come out of your mouth? Like my mom used to say "calladita te ves mas bonita" (= "you look prettier when you are quiet") This by no means equals keeping everything bottled up inside or not being yourself or letting anyone walk all over you, but when what you are going to say doesn't add anything productive and the only thing it does is insult those around you, why even speak? Do they do it because somehow it makes them feel better than others?

Yeah all this stemmed from the Kanye West fiasco at the VMA's last night ... add a Facebook status in which someone vented about his rude behavior and lo' and behold, someone then turns around and acts just like him, no wonder they were defending him ... and sorry, I can't stoop to their level... so let them think they know best ... I know better than that ... "calladita me veo mas bonita"....

the gift of eyesight

Today I was purging my room of old mail, receipts, magazines, old Avon brochures ... and I kid you not ... the very last piece of mail was something addressed to my dad, so naturally I gave it to him ... he was outside in the garage smoking ... when he came inside he said "my baby gave eyesight to someone" ... I stood frozen as I said "what?"... he said "someone can see thanks to my baby" ... I grabbed the card from his hand and I just stood there, reading it over and over ... and then the tears came ... I have not cried in so long!

It was a thank you card from the Lyons Institute in Tampa, FL saying thank you and letting my dad know that thanks to my mom being a donor, someone's eyesight got restored ... I am still in awe of it ... how life works ... had we opened that card a month ago when it arrived we probably would have not been ready to read it ... but now it wasn't that hard ...

To even think that someone else has her eyes ... is like ... am speechless ... I could very well in time cross paths with that person and not even know it ... wow

here I go again...

here I go again trying to be consistent with this blog thing ... my life has been/is going through so many changes since my mom passed away ... sometimes I feel like I still haven't dealt with her death ... guess I haven't...

not even 2 wks after mom passed, my dad moved in with me ... it really wasn't a big decision to make as we get along well and I just could not imagine leaving him in that apartment by himself ... so that is still a change I am dealing with ... he gets upset 'cause am glued to the computer ... I say "hey, do I complain about what you do?" and then things calm down for a bit ...

change change change ... that seems to be the word that stays on my head lately ... so many changes, so little time to adjust 'cause life just goes on whether you have adjusted or not ... sometimes I feel mami is still in PR & I grab my phone to call her and then I remember ...

some changes I have implemented in my life so far are more health oriented ... I cut down on my soda intake, I started walking and I started going to the gym ... like my favorite song says ... "sometimes goodbye is a second chance"...